My Brother Duane...part II
So, as you will recall, last March, just the two of us were having a pleasant lunch with both my Mom and my brother Duane, who has been a handsome single bachelor for 43 years. The lighthearted banter we were enjoying across the table in Ben's restaurant, was quickly replaced by stunned silence. "Did I hear right", had my brother just said he was getting married", and then pretty much in the same sentence "Would you like to see her picture"?
I was amazed, my initial reaction upon seeing this young girls picture flung in front of my face was, "Oh my gosh, Duane, she can't be more than fourteen"! He immediately looked hurt, so I tried to grab hold of my senses, and looked at the picture a little harder. My thoughts were a whirl. How could this happen? He said, "her name is Maricel and she is 23". I was trying my hardest to digest all of this information that he was throwing at me a bit faster than I was prepared to hear.
They met over the Internet. He assured me they were in love. She is from the Philippines and they had been chatting online for 3 or 4 months. My mind kept telling me that if she was really 23 then that wouldn't be too bad. Later, my wonderful Sister-in-law, Wendy, from Singapore, who had been married to my hubby's brother Jerry and had our cute little nephew Wilson, made me feel much better as she assured me that almost all Asian girls are very petite and tend to look much younger than they are. lol
He being an licensed Attorney had to be aware of all the scams...I had to ask is this all on the up and up? He assured me it was and if anything at all was out of sorts he would keep his head on his shoulders, but that he was in love and so was Maricel. The girl in the photo was lovely, very petite, and Duane was beaming!
He told us all that he had already purchased plane tickets to the Philippines and had reserved a room at a resort. They were to be married. Duane said there was much to do, that they were expecting 15o people at the wedding.
Well, to my delight, Duane e-mailed me pictures almost on a daily basis. I gradually warmed up to the idea. I loved hearing his words describing how much fun they were having together. I was glad he was able to spend 6 weeks with her and that he also got to meet and spend time with her family and friends. They spoke of their future plans of living here in Florida and perhaps, God willing, having children.
Duane had said something to me that day during lunch that brought tears to my eyes..."Don't you think I want to have what you and Dennis have", "I don't want to live the rest of my life alone, I am in love".
I felt an intense awakening. Duane was in love! I love my brother and was going to support him in anyway I could. Sadly, the wedding did not happen. Her birth certificate was not properly written to match records, and there was some confusion as to, what was required for a wedding in the Philippians.
So Duane had to return, but the wedding plans are still on, it is just that he is planning to marry her here in the USA, where he is more comfortable with the laws and so forth. There is hoards of red tape. It will end up taking almost 7 to 9 months to process all of the required documents. They do not make it easy, but already they have passed the first hurdle. It all kind of reminds me of the adoption process, where patience is a virtue!
I am looking forward to having a new Sister-in-law! I am so happy for my brother and Duane you know we are looking forward to standing up for you two in church. You have always been a blessing to us, and we pray everything goes smooth as silk from here on out, and that God keeps you both in the palm of his hands.
So it's just the two of us glad that we have such good friends and family and hope you are blessed just the same.